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“Don’t be pessimistic.”
I am very open about the struggles my family and I face.
About overcoming some crazy things.
Accepting a new diagnosis, and learning how to use my new knowledge and spreading awareness.
Today someone asked if anyone else’s child was hitting their heads. I responded with yes and that doctors were concerned because what she was doing was not typical.
She then responded with “…doctors are mostly wrong.”
Me saying, “considering I have 3 kids on the spectrum, and this is a big sign of it,” was being pessimistic.
No dear.
This is me recognizing a problem and intervening before it becomes an out of control issue.
I deal with Autism, Sensory Processing Disorder, Epilepsy, and now a new diagnosis that I will talk about later, daily.
It sucks.
Here’s what happened when I ignored warning signs of these issues. (Not because I was being negligent, but because I just didn’t want to believe something was going on. I didn’t want to believe something was “wrong” so to speak, with my child.)
- Things got worse
- One child couldn’t talk until after her third birthday
- One child kept banging their head until it turned into banging their head so hard they’d have horrifying nosebleeds
And many more things I would be here for hours talking about.
Living in denial doesn’t keep you safe from anything. In fact, it ends up hurting you and everyone else.
If you can’t admit there is a problem, you’ll never be able to find a solution.
If you can’t find a solution, you’ll live in misery.
I for one refuse to live in misery.
Yes, some things suck. Like, really, really, suck.
Let me dwell for a little, and then I will climb out of the hole towards the light, and I will act like a reflector to help another family get out of their situation to also become a light!
Please, don’t tell someone who’s being open and vulnerable, “don’t be pessimistic,” it’s not helpful. It could very well be the extinguisher to their fire.
Instead offer kind words.
Be a hand that lifts up. Not one that pushes them further down.
My four amazing diamonds in the rough. They’ve taught me what acceptance truly means. They’ve taught me to find joy, and to smile through tears.
Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.
Ephesians 4:29